I can't have fun unless I'm under an influence ?

Here's the deal. I like to party and I like to have fun. I'm 16 and I've had my fair share of wild crazy nights. But the thing is that now I can't go to a party unless I'm gonna get high or drunk( I dot really like to drink but hey). anyways I can do normal stuff still, and have fun. But if it's a party than it's completely boring unless im under the influence. The only exception to that is if I'm dancing in the group with people like where your all just bunched together jumping around. Sorta like at a concert where it's really crowded( love concerts btw and I never feel the need to get high at one, unless it's a trippy band) ;) anyways I guess my problem is I just like to feel like I'm not incontroll. Oh and also usually the parties without substances are loser parties and Mayr that why I never have fun at them